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Let us first all agree that being a player is not easy, right? Salute to all the players out there wherever you are! It is hard work! Pretending to be stupid when your spouse finds that I miss you text on your phone and you have to give very stupid and unwarranted explanations. Waking up in the middle of the night just to reply to a text and immediately delete it then block that number till the next day when you are alone then unblock it and try to explain to an angry lover why you were off the entire night.  This addiction requires patience, multiple personalities and a tongue genetically engineered to lying.  I have been a player myself; I know what I am talking about. In fact, you can quote me on this subject.  It is probably more difficult than working at a construction site. It takes every last of your so called intelligence to just pull off playing two persons, now imagine playing five or ten persons simultaneously. It drains you, but for some strange reason, it is adrenalin

We are addicted to so many things: Sex, drugs, masturbation, alcohol, cheating, lying, homosexuality, pornography, and stealing, killing, rape. This list is extremely long. We are addicted to one thing or the other, if not us, then one of our family members, if not family then a friend or just someone you know.  The need to control them and make them stop is just overwhelming. We take them to rehab centers, specialists, to daktari mashuhuri kutoka Zanzibar and most commonly to pastors, for prayers. This is typical human reaction to circumstances beyond their control. What if I told you that there is a better way? If a child has not been taught and convinced that you can eat vegetables with visitors while there is meat in the kitchen, then that child will embarrass you by asking for it. They will not know that they are doing something wrong by asking for that meat. So how do we expect for an alcoholic to know that they are doing something wrong when they drink themselves silly and

I have realized just how easy it is to give relationship advice. Anyone can do it that has been in a relationship. Any kind of relationship really, regardless whether that relationship was healthy or not.  I have had my own share of breakups and one thing has been constant in all of them. My ex was the problem. She just wasn’t right for me. She never understood me. We fought a lot and I hate fighting. Therefore I am waiting for the right girl that will understand me. See that is the typical relationship advice I would give if I was not being honest with myself. The truth is, in every single relationship that I was involved in and never worked out I shoulder half the blame. She never understood me because I never opened up to her about my feelings. She felt like I let her down so many times and I was not there for her because I never told her I was broke at the time she needed my financial help. I pretended I could help her but I was just buying time. So now I lock myself in a de

Sometimes life is never black and white, no matter how strong we might be we all need help at some point. So subscribe to my blog, ask me questions and we shall answer them together. Love you all who have subscribed and asking questions. lets keep this rolling.

Personally I have never dated a single mum before, but I had a very intriguing conversation about that subject with a friend yesterday and being a writer, I had to give my unsolicited opinion about it. Therefore what you are about to read is my own fictional dialogue between myself and my friend on this intriguing topic for your solicited opinions. I : “Would you date a single mum?” My friend : “Yes. I totally would.” I : “Would you marry a single mum?” My friend: “No! I doubt I would.” I: “Why?” My friend: “I don’t know. I guess it kinda feels right when the woman I marry gives me my first son.” I: “Huh! Help me understand that.” My friend: “Understand what?” I: “Why you would date her but not marry her.” My friend: “They give a good f**k” I: “Wow! I don’t know how to respond to that” My friend: “But it is true. They always feel like they have to offer more when they meet a guy. When they get a baby and the man is not around they kinda feel damaged

I love you but woman please give me space! I swear I can’t live without you and you know that. I always want to see you every second of the day. What I don’t tell you is that before I met you I had friends. Boyfriends that I love to bits and guess what, they miss me. I just want a few hours off face-time today and perform boy rituals like playing fifa, just hang around my guys and discuss girls or something.  So don’t call me, don’t text me. Don’t text and tell me it is important I call you back. In fact let me just go with your phone today. I always find it hard to tell you this. The truth is that I would really like it if once in a while you just pretend I don’t exist then go hang out with your girls. Don’t hang out with your best friends who are boys, just hang around your girlfriends and know that I love you and I will look for you once the gods of bromance are happy.  There are those days that I just want some me time and I will love you more as a result trust me.  Eve gave

“Unacheki nini Morgan, ni ukweli nilikuwa napenda uyu dame, lakini sio ile design ya mapenzi ina run dunia. Nilikuwa tu apo juu ya sex. So vile ile siku aliniseti ako home kumbe ni jam session sindio mimi nikamusamba. Wewe una imagine nime spend iyo doo yote kununua food then yeye ako jam session kufurahisha wanaume wengine. Iyo ndio siku story yetu ili die.” I hope you have read that with a deep ascent and a voice of a guy who may or may not be getting high once in a while. If you have not, I highly recommend that you do. Anyway, what I want you to pick from the above story is the ile mapenzi ina run dunia . Someone may tell you a thousand times how much they love you, how they would die for you. Unless it is love that runs the world then you may be headed for heartbreak. I hate to be the one who breaks this to you but, the truth is that the only love that runs the world is the love of God. Yes, like as in God the father, the son and the Holy Spirit. That is the only love that